To all the Moms with 2 jobs…
I know you’re probably reading this at your desk right now, so I’ll make it brief. Just so you know, whatever you’re dealing with…you’re not alone. The kids you are raising the best you can are always on your side…they get it.
I know you’re exhausted from trying your best at work, and equally as hard at home, and STILL not feeling good enough.
I know you’ve spent hours at work to run home, grab some almonds and drive your child to gymnastics or karate or soccer.
I know you’ve looked longingly at the more rested looking stay at home Moms at that class, while emailing your boss and watching your kids latest trick simultaneously.
I know you sometimes have a hard time chatting with those stay at home Mommies. I know you just don’t have time to sweat the small stuff. I know you feel like your child is being cheated because of it.
I also know that you stayed up late to make special snacks for your baby’s class so they can bring treats just as fancy as the ones that other kid’s Mom made.
I know you find your keys in the refrigerator and diapers in your work bag.
I know that you often feel like two people. The work you, and Mommy.
I also know that you harbor too much guilt. Guilt over what you’ve done, what you haven’t done, what you wish you could do, and what you know you’ll never be able to.
I know that the most important text you get all day is a picture of your kids, and that it gets you through to the next text with a picture of your kids.
I know that one of the worst days of your life was the day you went back to work after having your children. I know you didn’t think you’d survive it, but you did.
I know that you both envy and feel sorry for stay at home Moms. I also know that you don’t judge them…you simply don’t have the time. You’re not sure how they do it all day, every day…and from you they get mad props.
I’m guessing that you will check your phone about 20 times today to look at weekend pics with your kids.
Stop feeling guilty guys! You ARE doing the best you can, and you’re giving your kids a wonderful role model. You’re teaching them balance in an increasingly crazy world. You’re showing them love in everything you do…from the snacks you make, to the hours you spend at work so that those snacks can come from Whole Foods. You show them how to be tough when they hear stories about your work day, your commute, and the crazy guy you ran into on the subway.
Be proud of yourself.
Don’t feel guilty for stopping to breathe every once and a while.
You’re babies know that you love them, and they love you too.
Your children are proud of what you have accomplished.
Don’t feel guilty that you love your job.
Feel proud that you are doing the best you can for your family and your future. So many of us have been down this road. We are there, cheering you on, not judging, supporting, and understanding.
Oh…and by the way…you’re wearing two different shoes. 😉